Thursday, September 22, 2011

Getting to Know You :)

I was thinking of doing this for a while now - I'd really love to know all of you who are reading my blog. Moreso than just the usual commenters, most of whom I know well.

I've turned comments on for everyone, for this post. If you feel comfortable doing so, lurkers included, please tell me a bit about yourselves! Are you suffering a cross of infertility or miscarriage? Do you know someone who is? Did you just happen to stumble upon this blog but have no personal connection to infertility whatsoever? Are you Catholic? Christian? Do you know me in real life? Do you just like the pretty flowers on top of the blog? ;)

You don't have to use your real name - but I'd love to hear from you all the same, and that way, keep you in my prayers :)

99 comments:

Anonymous said...

I'll bite. I don't know you, but I recently stumbled upon your blog while doing research for patron saints of infertility/conception. And your words have been inspirational. I was raised Catholic, but I have not been practicing for some time. I am 31 and have been trying to get pregnant for about 8 cycles with no success and am just now starting the process of getting blood tests, etc. to see what is going on. I would appreciate being kept in your prayers, and I will keep you in mine.

barbie said...

You know me, I'm a regular and I love ya!

Emily said...

I am Emily. I am also carrying the cross of infertility and miscarriage. I am 24 and have been trying for a year and a half. I stumbled across your blog through other people's blog

Donna said...

I'm not sure how I found your blog, but I too am Catholic and have dealt with infertility my entired married life. We're about to celebrate 13 years in October! For a variety of reasons we haven't persued adoption and instead chosen to be a family of two.

BTW, I love the flowers at the top of your blog. Are they from your wedding?

Patiently Waiting...... said...

I am not a frequent commenter on your blog but I am certainly a regular reader! You have been an inspiration for me in so many ways. Thank you for your honesty and sharing your emotions, both good and bad. God Bless You!

Molly M. said...

I'm Molly. I'm 30 and I've been infertile for almost 4.5 years, when we started trying right after our wedding. We had 2 miscarriages last year that ended very early in the pregnancy and we finally have an appointment to see a new doctor who practices Creighton and was trained at PPVI in October. It's been a long cross for sure, but not as bad I think as some of what I've read from you and others. But, then again, I still may be at the very beginning of this cross.

I found your blog when Holly (of Falling Upwards) filled me in on Napro and sent me an article about the IF bloggers. I now follow a few of you and it's been a comfort to read and know that there is hope.

I am so glad that you have found peace and I continue to keep you and all those ladies battling with IF in my prayers.

callmemama said...

You know me, but I'd thought I'd say hi anyway :).

Anonymous said...

I'm Catholic, 31, married nearly 5 years, and have dealt with both infertility and, um, inadoption. My husband and I knew before we married that we'd likely be unable to conceive. But a few months after our wedding we were hit with a catastrophe that made us unable to adopt for years (well, permanently, we were told by many). Against all odds, we did adopt our daughter this year. Your blog has been a blessing, especially during isolating and spiritually difficult times; thank you.

Anonymous said...

Hi TCIE! I know you in "real life" and am very inspired by your blog, and can relate to so much of it from what we went through in our own journey. Here's a hint: I'm a good friend of your sister's, and am your niece's confirmation sponsor. We pray for you and your DH every night (with our daughter, and I believe Jesus particularly hears the prayers of little children) Please keep us in your prayers as well, as I believe your sis told you our totally unbelieveable recent news. Our God is a God of surprises! Anyway, thank you for sharing your journey of faith and hope; wishing you abundant blessings on your way!

Amber said...

Hello. I subscribe and read regularly. Found you and other blogs while doing searches on NaPro and Creighton. I have PCOS and struggled to conceive, it has now been 10 years since our last baby and we have been seriously ttc since October of last year. We have never tta of course. We are Christian.

Sarah said...

I comment fairly regularly, but just wanted to say "hi". I stumbled across the your blog and others as an engaged woman, and I am so grateful for this blog community. Shortly after marrying, it became obvious building our family presented some challenges.

Lea said...

Hello. I've been following your blog for awhile now and enjoy reading it very much although I've only commented a few times. You have such a way with words and I admire the way you carry your cross with such grace and faith. I do not have a blog of my own but am inspired by all of you. I struggled with infertility for five years and then got pregnant with our miracle Olivia Grace my first cycle on synthroid. Unfortunately, I had hypothyroidism and it never showed up in the bloodwork all those years! I was blessed with another miracle pregnancy our first month trying again and sadly that pregnancy ended in miscarriage a little over 6 weeks. I am the one who asked so to get the info from you about your NaPro dr in CA. I have an appt with her in a couple of weeks. Thank you. I continue to pray for you.

Lea said...

Btw that should have said "sew".:)

Right Said Red said...

I've been reading for a while, and I've even left a comment here and there. I blog at buildingcathedrals.com, so I obviously do not suffer the cross of infertility. I did, however, lose my first child to a stillbirth. I now teach NFP, have a lot of friends in a similar situation to you (including my own baby sister), and feel very uplifted by your writing.

Lisa said...

I haven't been able to get you off my mind... quite literally (!)... for several months. We've never met in person, and we have very different experience when it comes to our fertility and struggles with that, but I believe that God called us to "meet" several months ago, and I've been blessed by our new friendship. You know the reason, but I've always felt like I've known you-- we've met long before we have ever met in person!!

Chasing said...

You know me :-)

Anonymous said...

I don't know you, but have been reading for a while. My husband and I are catholic and also struggle with being unable to conceive. I also suffer from very painful periods. I recently made my first appointment with a NaPro doctor. Please pray for us.

"All in His Perfect Timing" said...

I've been reading your blog for quite awhile, and since I've started my own blog, I've been commenting. :)
I just turned 30, have been married for 5 years and have been TTC that entire time. I had laparotomy a year ago at PPVI, and now am going through the constant updating/changing of meds for fertility & my thyroid. We're also pursuing adoption.
I love to read all the things that you write. You have such deep thoughts that are so clearly worded - I can almost always identify with your writings. I think I came to you from Sew or GIMH or AYWH originally. :)

Anonymous said...

Can I diagnose the anonymous crowd??? ;)- you know me lady!

Barbara C. said...

I can't remember which Catholic blog I found you through. But I've very proud of you and your husband for following the Catholic teachings and avoiding illicit means to have a child.

My mother endured secondary infertility between me an my sister (9 1/2 year age difference). During my teenage years I assumed that I had been "an accident" baby until I learned differently.

I have not personally suffered through infertility; I have beautiful daughters. But reading your blog keeps me humble. And your cross has allowed you to make some great spiritual insights that are relevant to all of us, no matter what our individual cross may be.

Rachelle said...

Hi! I"m Rachelle I've been lurking for a long time. I try to blog at instructioninlove. I'm single and still waiting for a husband in order to get to the having kids part. I can't wait to have kids. Which is probably why I hang around the infertility community so much. There's a little bit of overlap. I am so happy for you that you've found some peace.

Perfect Power in Weakness said...

I've been following your blog since before I started my own. I'm 33 and have only been doing Napro for 2 1/2 years, but have been IF for 4 years. We have some similar medical issues- thin, PCOD, food intolerances, etc. so I've been drawn to your blog to read about your medical experiences with those. I've been so intrigued with your aggressive treatments and vast medical knowledge. I also appreciate reading your faith struggles and journey as well.

imusthaveprayedforpatience said...

Catholic convert. 32. Married for four years this next Thursday. Struggling with IF since the wedding day. Two miscarriages. Lots of surgeries. Endo, chronic inflammation, messed up hormones. H has motility, morphology, and DNA issues. Had major surgery with Dr. H in May and now going through trials of T3, clomid, hcg injections, and progesterone suppositories. Found your blog because I wanted to have the support of other catholic women undergoing the same struggles.

Leila @ Little Catholic Bubble said...

I am in a category all my own. ;)

And, like everyone else, I adore you.

Anne Bazin said...

I only recently discovered your blog. I've been married for almost 2 years, have PCOS and had a miscarriage in April. Reading your blog brings me so much peace, especially the advice you've shared with us from your therapist. I've been praying for you and your husband.

motheringspirit said...

I started reading your blog several years ago (must be 4 now? wow) when we were going through our years of infertility. After we were able to conceive, I kept reading many of the Catholic IF blogs I found during my research b/c my own faith journey and the story of our family are forever changed by our IF experience and I wanted to stay connected to this world, toalways remind myself what those years were like. I still pray for you and enjoy reading your refections, difficult as they must be at times to share.

Bernardette said...

Hi, I have been following you for quite some time now :) My husband and I are both Catholics and we are from Malta. After infertility and three consecutive miscarriages we are currently pursuing adoptions. We are also being followed by a Napro doctor. Your blog has been an inspiration for me. Many times it helped go along during the most difficult periods of this journey. Lets continue to pray for each other.

Mrs. Mike said...

I hope you recognize my user name...I've been following you for at least two (but possibly 3?) years. I adore your insights on the cross of infertility. You are able to articulate what I and so many have felt through the years but didn't know how to form the right words for it.

Simone said...

Wow this is a great idea. I first "met" you on the yahoo catholic IF forum. I found your blog awhile ago maybe last year when I was searching for others like me. I know it took me awhile to put the two of you together. Then I met you in person the other day.
I follow regularly and sometimes comment. HMM can;t remember all of the other questions. I should have taken notes. Let's see I have been TTC for 4 years now. Been doing napro for almost two years. I've been through a lot including 5 surgeries and too many needles in the belly and some in the butt. Reading your blog gives me strength to keep going.

Emily G. said...

I'm Emily. I've been reading for a while now, I found you through Sew's blog. I do not personally struggle with infertility, my problem is I'm very fertile but my body has a hard time staying pregnant once I conceive. I started reading Catholic infertile blogs after suffering a miscarriage, and then being treated by a Napro doctor for low progesterone during my next pregnancy. I'm Catholic. I find your faith and your commitment to its morals inspiring. I try to spread the word about Napro technology as much as I can; without it my son would not be here, nor would my current pregnancy be holding on at 22 weeks.

You and your husband are often in my thoughts and prayers. I was happy to read your last post that you have found some peace with where you are now, you've sounded so heartbroken in the past. Thanks for blogging!

Anonymous said...

HI I'm Kristen. I've been lurking since early this year. I've been married & TTC for 5 years. I am Catholic, have PCOS & my medications/surgery timeline are very similar. We learned CCL NFP in our marriage prep because it was the only thing in our area. I just recently started charting using NaPro. You drove me crazy with all the colored stickers , I just had to know what they were all about! Trying to convince our ProLife OBGYN to get NaPro trained. Thanks to you,I have not given up hope for our "little peanut". Thank you for your daily inspirations. Keeping you in my daily prayers.

Angelique said...

Hi TCIE,
I'm Angelique and I have been reading your blog for a while now and am always inspired by your wisdom and deep faith. I think I may have commented a few times a while back but whether or not I comment, you remain in my prayers.

About me: DH and I experienced infertility before adopting internationally and later had 3 bio children as well. I actually emailed you a few weeks back to talk to you about my book, "The Infertility Companion for Catholics: Spiritual and Practical Support for Couples" that I co-authored with my best friend, Carmen, who is currently bearing the cross of infertility. It will be published by Ave Maria Press in April 2012.

We wanted permission to quote one of your blog entries. Would you mind please contacting me privately at aruhi_lopez [at] yahoo [dot] com?

Thanks for allowing us the opportunity to introduce ourselves and please keep this book in your prayers. We really hope it will provide much needed hope, help and comfort for faithful Catholics bearing the cross of infertility. Many blessings to you and yours!

cavyladyrae said...

Catholic, 33, married/ infertile 9 years. Spouse not open to adoption, so I'm the only one of my peers who is still childless. The years keep getting longer and the cross heavier.

Hebrews 11:1 said...

Me! But you know me. :) I love your blog and I love you!!!!!

Rebecca said...

Hi! You know I love you. I can't remember exactly how I found you, but your words have frequently been such a peace to me.

The Man and I have been married 7 years, and have been TTC for a year now. Made my first NaPro appointment today.

Anonymous said...

I'm a practicing Catholic, with some hormonal issues that I've finally decided to take Creighton classes for to try to figure out (specifically luteal phase defect and PMDD). I do have one child but my NaPro doc thinks she was a miracle, and that I will likely have trouble conceiving any future children. I also have a bicornuate uterus, to complicate things! Currently I am on Progesterone from P+3 for ten days. I find your blog interesting from a NaPro perspective and of course I am totally rooting for you and your husband as far as pregnancy goes. I pray for you often.

Joy said...

Frequent reader, occasional commenter, catholic, fan

Lianna said...

I've been reading for about 2 years now, I think. You really do inspire me with your faith. I carry the cross of singleness at this point in my life (22 years old). In some ways, it's similar to the cross of infertility.

Martie said...

Hi! I've been reading your blog for several months now. You've been SO helpful to me as DH and I now enter our third year of IF. We are practicing Catholics who attend an FSSP Mass. I have Stage IV Endo, and will actually be heading to Atlanta, GA next week to have surgery at the Center for Endometriosis Care. I pray for you in your journey to grow your family, and would be grateful for any prayers you could send my way! God bless!

Anonymous said...

I found you through several link clicks. I suffer from several crosses, some lifelong and permanent (including it being all but certain that I will never be a biological or adoptive mother), and some long-term and (please God) temporary. The ways in which you have handled your crosses is admirable although you no doubt have been consumed with sadness at times. Your faith journey has helped me in mine. Thank you. And peace.

C.C. (aka Crunchy Catholic Mama) said...

I'm so glad you did this as it's amazing to read the responses.

You know me. I don't comment very often but I'm always here reading and praying with you and for you. I found your blog through http://www.catholicinfertility.org/ back in November or December 2008.

For those that don't know me, I'm Catholic, knew I was IF for years before marriage, lived through 2 yrs TTC before conceiving my 16 month old (literally minutes after spending time with TCIE BTW)and now seem to be now experiencing secondary IF.

kmab231 said...

Hi! I am 33, Catholic, married almost 3 years and TTC about the same amount of time with one miscarriage a year and a half ago. I found your blog (and several others!) about 6 months ago, I think, after I had my first surgery with Dr. Keefe. Have been using Creighton Model for the last year (we took the intro class during marriage prep but didn't start with our practitioner until we were having TTTC...big mistake). I am lucky to live in Omaha and PPVI is about 2 miles from my home!

Stacy said...

I've been following your blog for about a year now. My husband and I have been married for 2.5 years, and we have been TTC unsuccessfully for 1.5 years. Napro has been a godsend, as well as my doctor (5 hrs away!). Physically things look fine, hormonally not so much. Just ending our go with Clomid, and now on to "what's next." I really enjoy reading and appreciate your realism and honesty.

Sarah said...

I am Sarah. I've been reading your blog as a lurker for like a year and a half. I have PCOS and have struggled with sub-fertility. After getting pregnant three months after being married, I miscarried. Then it took a little over a year to get pregnant again. I actually conceived our daughter during my first cycle charting Creighton, after using STM the first year+ of marriage. Creighton is awesome!

My daughter is now 9 months old; Margaret Gianna. :)

I've referred a dear, dear friend who is going through IF to your blog. She is a very strong Catholic (she is the oldest of 6, her DH is one of 7) and they have been trying for over a year.

Even though I've never left a comment, I pray for you quite often.

I found your blog via AYWH, which I found when I was ttc and feeling so miserable.

I blog at http://fumblingtowardgrace.wordpress.com

Thank you for writing and sharing the faith!

Joy Beyond the Cross said...

I think you know me! It has been great reading all the entries. I am looking forward to seeing pics of the house. :)

Nicole said...

I don't know you, but I started searching and reading Catholic IF blogs when my husband(of 8 years) and I found ourselves struggling with (secondary) infertility. God blessed us with one son 3 years ago (we never TTA). DH is a cradle Catholic while I converted 7 years ago. We learned sympto-thermal during pre-cana as only available natural family method in diocese. Since then, we moved, discovered Creighton, and found a wonderful Napro doctor (in WA DC). Now on first cycle of progesterone supplements as blood work revealed very low levels of progesterone and estrogen. I am not disciplined enough to blog, but yours inspires me. You, your DH, and entire Catholic IF "family" are in my nightly prayers.

JellyBelly said...

You know who I am buddy! :)

Xan said...

You've known me for 12 years (holy cow!) but I began following your blog when you told me about it-about a year ago, maybe. I started at the beginning and read it straight through. I miss you and reading your blog makes me feel connected to you (even though in person we would be more likely be making jokes about each others boobs). I am agnostic-leaning toward athiest, but I find your faith in your God inspiring. Sometimes I am even envious of it. You (and your DH) are two of the strongest, kindest people that I know. I love you.

Jasmine said...

I found out about your blog from Life From Inside the Wheelbarrow. I am Catholic, 33, married 10 years, a CFP, NaPro patient for over 10 years, primary IF for 5 years, then a baby, than PPD, than a miscarriage, and now secondary IF and loads of fertility issues throughout. We've emailed. We have some similar issues with the same doctors Dr. T (NY), and Dr. D (Calif). Your words are so beautiful and have always been inspirational. You have been in my prayers over the years. I am so happy you are now experiencing peace. Blessings abound regardless of the shape or form. Thanks be to God for peace.

Sarah Johnson said...

:) You "know" me! Love ya, girl!

Danya @ He Adopted Me First said...

I'm a regular...and praying for you too!

CM said...

Love your blog! I'm sure I found it through another infertile blogger. I'm not infertile (that I know of) but I find a lot of similarities of the emotional crosses of infertility as with my own cross of being single but feeling called to marriage.

doctorgianna said...

You know me - from blogging and IRL. And I love reading your blog!

Anonymous said...

I've been following your blog for about a year. I'm a grandma now, but experienced several years of infertility and two miscarriages in my younger years. I have three adult children and one grandchild. I'm always touched by your honesty, and wait prayerfully for the day when your longing for motherhood will be fulfilled. PS: Your house is the cutest thing ever!

Anonymous said...

I've been following your blog for few months (posting sometimes with my name); I found it as a link in a Catholic infertility page. My cross in my gynecologist words: "please call me right away if you ever get a positive test. I'll be happy knowing you conceived after more than two years but I think you should start testing right away to make sure the baby is healthy" (sigh!!..). I'm Catholic and my husband is not but we are both uncomfortable with IVF and lately we are seriously thinking about adoption.

KT said...

I am not sure where I found your blog... We tried naturally, we tried adoption...nothing worked out. So we now live as a family of two.

We have talked about foster care, but now is just not the time. Our state passed a civil unions bill, Catholic Charities will not accept civil unions...and the state is looking to end the relationship. UGH! So, that has been yet another struggle of recently.

Boopa said...

I've been reading your blog since I noticed it in your siggy way back when you used to post on BZ, It has helped me understand more about IF and how Catholics deal with it. Your Blog Roll has allowed me to follow many stories along with yours I definately feel sad when a blogger goes private and I am unable to hear of their good news or progress if you or one of the other ladies doesn't post it.
I've wanted to email you but haven't located a send email option.
Wishing you all the best!

Carissa said...

I've been reading your blog for a couple months now. I was raised Catholic, but only started embracing my faith after my miscarriage (after years of infertility). It's almost been a year since then -- we still haven't conceived -- but at least I'm on track for figuring things out, as I have recently been diagnosed as having major thyroid issues. It was because of your blog that I decided to get tested for food intolerances and also to hopefully try Clear Passage for my endometriosis early next year. My husband and I may also not be able to adopt, so I feel a certain kinship with you. Please pray for me, and I will for you.

BlessedBeLord said...

Hi TCIE! I read you blog regularly and have commented here and there :)
Found ur lovely blog thru another IF blog.
We are Catholic and struggling with RPL. Discovered NaPro thru all ur blogs. Found a wonderful blogger & Creighton Instructor "Polkadot" and now pursuing NaPro treatments.

Your posts have inspired me and when I feel low and hopeless, you often come up with another post full of hope. God bless!

Carla Dobs said...

I believe I have commented before...

I am a mom of 7 - 6 bio and 1 little guy with special needs just adopted from Ukraine...

DH and I had a few years of secondary infertility after he had testicular cancer at age 31 when our boys were 3 and 4...four bio kids and 15 years later later he is doing well!

I had a miscarriage in 2006 and again on August 1 ( both about 10 weeks), this last one 2 weeks before leaving for our adoption...I would welcome another pg but now struggle at age 44 with thyroid issues ( i am gluten-free and treating with a naturopath, both of which have helped a lot)...

I love your spiritual perspective and plain old guts and moxie!! Keeping you and DH in my prayers,

Carla
www.bringinghenryhome.blogspot.com

Bekah B said...

I'm another non-blogging lurker. I was introduced to the Catholic IF blogging community by Wheelbarrow Rider (I also know her IRL!). She suggested that we chart using Creighton to help diagnose our IF (we were using the STM), and that was already 3+ years ago.

I'm 33, and my husband and I are both Catholic, married for 9 years, actively TTC for 7+ years. We have never achieved pregnancy. I have had an HSG, laparoscopy, and hysteroscopy, with stage 1 endo removed. No other abnormalities or explanations for our IF. We were able to find a NaPro doctor to help diagnose and treat low progesterone/sometimes estradiol (the HCG shots also relieved my migraines, which were hormonally triggered, as I could see from my charts!). We also took antibiotics to clear up the TEBB. This year, we stopped all outside treatments. We felt that we had done all we could to maximize our fertility after more than a year on HCG, P+7 bloodwork, and 'normal' charts. It is still frustrating not to know the 'whys' of our situation, although I fervently believe that the Creighton model and NaPro are huge blessings. We are currently pursuing adoption locally, although that process is on hold temporarily right now.

Carrying the cross of infertility can be a very isolating experience. I am so grateful that you so eloquently (and honestly) share your thoughts and feelings with us. I know that my spiritual growth during this time has been due in part to faithful, Catholic bloggers like you. It is a daily struggle to choose God's will over my own desires, and I thank you for the inspiration you provide.

Anonymous said...

I began following your blog several years ago after reading your posts on babyzone. At the time you were trying acupuncture. I'd been struggling with infertility for 2 years at that point and decided I would give it a try and ended up pregnant shortly thereafter! I have always felt that you had a part in that so thank you!

Since then I have had multiple miscarriages but am now in my third trimester! While I am not Catholic your faith has strengthened my own and taught me many lessons. Thank you for sharing your journey.

Meghan said...

Hi TCIE,

I've commented before, but I don't think I've ever told you anything about me! I'm 30, a Catholic convert, married almost 5 years. My husband and I struggled for years with infertility. We finally conceived but we lost our daughter to stillbirth. Then we tried again, God blessed us with a little boy we lost to miscarriage. We then adopted a wonderful little boy from Russia last year. The journey to being parents took 40 months for us, but looking back, we grew so much in that time and God really did an amazing job building our family. I do have a blog, but I don't link to it in my profile.

I love your blog and your posts are always inspiring to me. I originally found your blog through JBTC's blog.

mrsblondies said...

You know me :). Just wanted to say hi and I'm still reading even though I'm not commenting much anymore.

KC said...

I think you know me too, but I figured this was a good time to comment since I have been bad at commenting lately.

I also wanted to tell you that I pray for you (along with a few others who have been blogging for awhile who are still waiting) at pretty much every mass I go to...seriously...I pray for you...by name (The misfit and Jellybelly are two others I can think of offhand). Yes, I really really do.

You are frequently on my heart even though we've never even met in person. I just keep on praying because I know that's really all I can do. Just know that you have affected so many people via this blog (for good of course) and as a result you have a LOT of people praying for you.


Hugs,
KC

Jocelyn said...

I'm not sure how I came across you, but have been following for some time. Struggling with secondary infertility for over two years now. I am so comforted by your words, they often express my feelings as well!

Rachel said...

Hi,
Lurker here. I've been reading for a liitle over a year. I think I stumbled upon you through another blog. I'm 33 married with 3 kids both my husband and I are cradle Catholics. Obviously not infertile but I started reading IF blogs in an effort to better understand and provide support for a dear friend who is still suffering.
I have found your blog an inspiration. Your strength and faith are amazing and humbling to me. I don't think I've ever prayed harder or cheered stronger for a total stranger!

KCaddy said...

Hi, fellow infertile here. God has blessed me in finding your blog. Your honest and insightful words of struggle, sacrifice, frustration, faith, trust and hope have helped guide me on my own journey of infertility. More specifically, by not feeling so alone and trusting God. I think I've remained silent for too long! I'm grateful for this post as it feels like a gentle invitation.
I'm Catholic, 31, married 6 years (today!), amazing DH, TTC since, miscarriage in 2008, learned NaPro in 2010 (not known or taught locally), endo surgery in May 2011. IF has been most challenging spiritually and oddly enough, the most rewarding.
I echo others who thank you for sharing your honesty, your faith, and your emotional journey as well as the physical/medical journey. All is gift from God. You help me embrace (!) that. I will continue to hold you in prayer!
Peace,
K

kah said...

Sure, I'll de-lurk. I'm 34, married for 8 years. We're slowly beginning the adoption process. I think I found you through AYWH's blog. Thank you for your honesty and sharing your inspiring faith!

Marissa said...

I've been reading your blog for several months now, and I found you through Matching Moonheads's blog. My husband and I (both Catholic) have been trying to conceive for over a year, and we have our first appointment to investigate what is or isn't going on next week. It's been an emotional time for me, but I've enjoyed reading about your journey and learning from you. I keep you in my prayers.

CS said...

We have been TTC for 2 years now. I follow Patiently Waiting, St Rita's Roses, Hebrews, JBTC, My Heart Exults, and am friends with Jelly Belly - how could I not follow you!?? I am very interested in Napro, I may be checking it out soon.
infertility-me.blogspot.com

Anonymous said...

I am a 38-year-old infertile Catholic and patient of PPVI. I have been dealing with infertility for 3.5 years and I know my chances are growing slimmer with each passing cycle. My husband does not feel called to adopt so that door appears to be closed. I am trying to come to terms with the possibility that I will never be a mother and am starting to feel a little more peace with that although I have a long ways to go. You are a very talented writer and your reflections have been a huge source of inspiration and comfort to me during some dark days. TCIE, I wish you all the best and you are in my prayers.

taramarissa said...

Hi! I'm Tara, not a blogger, and not IF, but I read many of the IF blogs. I think I'm drawn to them because I've always had a heart for adoption, and I also love the Catholicity of the blogs. I'm Catholic, married, and mom to 2 (soon to be 3) kiddos. I always remember you as "the one with the house" because we are old house lovers as well. We have a project of our own, which was something of a similar emotional purchase and roller coaster process. Love it though!

Jill_and_Rob said...

I came across your blog. I appreciate your honesty and hoping that your able to bring a baby home someday. Jill

Sissy said...

I'm a regular!

Anonymous said...

He! He! You've gotten to know me recently, Amy, but I've been reading your blog for quite some time. :-) Although we recently met in person, I am certain that this is the beginning of a very long friendship.

matchingmoonheads said...

i am alison and you know me :)

A Cheerleader said...

I think I found you through googling 'catholic infertility' after my miscarriage aged 35, I wanted to see how other people had convinced a doctor to look into faith friendly options rather than being railroaded into ivf. We were the only couple we knew abstaining 'till marriage, then the only ones using nfp, then the only ones not wanting ivf I though I was totally alone. What a solace I found!

My fears were groundless, 12 months after we lost our 1st baby I was pregnant with our daughter but having learnt how much suffering some people face I hope I'm a slightly
more sensitive' fertile'. I still follow you because I don't want to miss the post when you have your child, whenever and however that may be.

Hormone Queen said...

I dont post very often either, but I have been reading your blog for quite a while now :) I have infertility, PCOS, Factor V Leiden, amongst other issues... dealing with infertility for 10years! I have been blessed with a son, 5miscarriages and another miracle growing in my womb right now!
God is good, and so is Napro. Your blog is ministering to many women, its a blessing for all us to read your journey with the Lord and infertility. Praying for you <3

Kelli said...

I very gratefully stumbled upon your blog about 6 months ago! I am 25, married for 5 years and have always known I would have complications getting pregnant. In 2009, we surprisingly found out we were pregnant, but unfortunately it was an ectopic. We've been struggling since. I began charting this time last year but somehow lost contact with our practitioner during her move. I'm praying my husband will open his eye to adoption soon. I check your blog regularly and love the way you write. You are such an inspiration and I will continue to keep you and your DH in my prayers. Thanks for everything!

Anonymous said...

I have been following you for nearly two years. I am Christian, I thought I tried for 6 years to get pregnant naturally before finally succeeding. While I wouldn't choose the Catholics' path for dealing with infertility I respect you & am amazed by you & your fight. I enjoy reading your stories & insight to all aspects of your life but look forward the most to the day you post yout good news. (BTW congrats on the financial good news you announced in the previous post).

Oh, and I have been meaning to ask you--I found your blog through Nothing to Fear But Infertility. I didn't know you knew her outside of the internet though until she posted that you did her ultrasound. Are you at liberty to tell us if everything is okay for her? Her last post was announcing she was pg with a boy--no updates at all since...

G @ RenewingMoments said...

I started reading your blog (probably) in 2008 when dh and I were trying to find peace with our infertility. I found many other Catholic IF blogs around the same time, and I really found it helpful seeing people in the same boat, being Catholic and going through IF, having similar feelings etc.

I'm now the *blessed* mother (through adoption) to a 2 year old sweet munchkin, and matched to adopt another in two weeks (!!!).

Your honesty is very much appreciated - you keep it real! Your writing is often very inspiring, and that's what keeps me coming back!

Jeanne G. said...

I have been reading your blog for about a year. I don't think I've ever commented. I am 33, married two years,Catholic. I have a luteal phase defect. I suspect I will have trouble when we finally TTC. We waited 4 months until I finished grad school, tried ONCE, and then my husband lost his job. He's still unemployed. We haven't TTC since. I really want to! I don't remember how I found you, but I appreciated your infertility timeline. I didn't know at first that the timeline was a popular feature of infertility blogs. I am a NaPro user/patient and I am interested in what other people have had to do to TTC since I can see myself in their shoes in the future.

Anonymous said...

Hi I am 32, married for 10 years with 6 kids (2 boys, and 4 in heaven lost to miscarriage). I am a long time patient of PPVI for infertility and recurrent miscarriage. I met you back on the Yahoo Catholic Infertility group. I have loved reading your blog since you left! You are always in my prayers, and I love your wonderful posts on our faith.
God Bless! -Renee

Beth said...

I've commented once in a while, but have read regularly for at least a year or so.
My husband and I are Catholic. We have been married for 7 years, trying to conceive for about 3, and currently waiting for an adoption placement.
Our primary infertility diagnosis relates to male infertility, which seems to be minimally researched and covered, including in Catholic / NFP-oriented blogs and institutions. I've debated starting one, but I'm just not quite "there" yet.
Thank you for your great insights! You and your family remain in my prayers!

A said...

I read your blog every now and then, and I am definitely praying that God blesses you with a child in a way that totally knocks your socks off.

I'm Catholic and I used to be on some of the Catholic bloggers' blogrolls, but then last year, we tried IUI/IVF after much prayer and recognition that God remains the creator of life, no matter what circumstances He chooses to work in (not wanting to start a debate, just explaining our position). But once we tried ART, I got dropped like a hot potato from everyone's lists. It kind of hurt- especially since all of our decisions were 100% life-affirming, and in the end, none of the "technology" worked for us and I was left with gaping empty arms for the last half of last year. We decided to change our diets and incorporate acupuncture into our lifestyle, and in January, we conceived without meds or doctors- totally natural on our own. Our miracle baby girl is due in a week!

Even though I assume that very few of the Catholic bloggers read my blog anymore (I only know of one person), I still check in on you all from time to time because I feel like no matter what the background or strategy, we should all support each other in our quest to become moms, and it's my prayer that just as He blessed us when we figured it would never happen, that He will bless all of you in the same miraculous way!

Made For Another World said...

I've been reading for a few years, avidly for about a year. You were the first blog I would check everyday and then I'd go over to Sew from your blog and use both of your blogrolls to check everyone else. Now I've started my own blog in the last few months so I don't have to stalk you everyday waiting for a post!! I rarely commented when I didn't have my own blog and now I do more often. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, your growth and your innermost heart with us. It helps us grow, become more humble and comforts us. God Bless you sweet TCIE.

Kerry said...

Wow! What an amazing response you got here! What infertile people can find online, especially about the truth in our body and in catholic teaching, is so wonderfully on display in the catholic IF blogs.

I love thinking that at 2am somewhere, someone can find your blog and so many others that help them and let them know they are not alone.

I read a lot of the blogs and comment sometimes, but no blog of my own.

I have PCOS. It took two years to conceive my daughter, and we have been trying for a second child for 3 years.

God bless you!

Amazing Life said...

I have been a reader since 2008. It was after my 2nd surgery w/ Dr. Hilgers that I found the blogs and friendship of so many of you! Your sense of humor and faith hooked me and you and your dh have been in my prayers ever since.

Really wanted to meet you all at the BW weekend but that was shortly after my ectopic pg and I couldn't make the trip. You are a blessing to so many, we love you!

Lisa said...

Hey there. I've commented here before. I'm a FertilityCare Practitioner with lots of infertility issues, not the least of which is my endometriosis and tendency toward adhesions. Have had surgeries at Pope Paul VI with Dr. Hilgers. Still no pregnancy. But we have a daughter whom we adopted at birth and are waiting for our second. Life is what it is supposed to be here. God has led us to our family THROUGH infertility, and although it's not right for everyone, adoption has been our calling and our path.

Rebecca said...

Hi! Lurker for 2.5 years, infertile for 3. Recently cancelled surgery with Dr. Hilgers due to the fact that it's out of network and insurance wasn't going to cover it. So, I'm here with my HCG shots and a novena. When I first started reading, your blog kind of scared me. I mean, how could you "embrace" infertility? Anyway, the past couple of months your posts have been so peaceful and inspired. The growth you've had is remarkable. I now read your blog to find peace and insight. Thank you so much for being open enough to share. I would start a blog, but it's just easier to keep everything to myself. You're so brave.

chw said...

Hello! I'm another one of your lurkers. My name is Casey, and while I don't think I've ever commented, I have been reading your blog for at least a year.

My DH and I and are both Catholics (I'm a cradle Catholic, he's a recent convert from Lutheranism), and we have been experiencing the cross of infertility for a little over 3 years now.

I want to thank you for your posts. Your willingness to be vulnerable and share your pain as well as your wisdom is a great blessing to your many readers, myself included.

I also want to thank you for talking about the Creighton model and Napro. Your blogging about those great services really gave me the motivation to seek out the services of our local Napro physician when he moved to our area a little over 6 months ago. We are still trying to sort out everything that's wrong, but I am hopeful. :)

God bless you, TCIE! I'll keep you in my prayers, and I'll try to comment a little more often.

Laboure said...

Hi! I'm a somewhat regular...but I just started my own blog. I'm discerning the religious life, but the first Catholic blogs I found in High school were Sew's, yours, GIMH, and AYWH! I've continued to follow all of you, as well as the other ladies. I keep you all in my prayers!

But I've been discerning for four years, finishing up college in a few more, then hopefully, off to serve God in my vocation to the religious life in a teaching order!

God's Peace!

PlayandPray said...

Hi, I've been following your blog for a little while now. DH and I have been dealing with IF for almost 4 years now (since our wedding). We became foster parents a year ago and feel like that is where this whole journey was supposed to lead us.

This_Cross_I_Embrace said...

Quick response to Anonymous, regarding Nothing to Fear But Infertility: D is doing well, last I saw (I honestly haven't been in touch with her for a while... but now I will try to get back in touch!) - she had a beautiful, healthy baby boy and he was thriving!

Lori said...

Hi TCIE. I am 30, my name is Lori and my husband and I struggled with infertility for 3 and 1/2 years. 3 months after having a laparscopy and treatment for endometriosis at the Pope Paul Institute with Dr Keefe, we got pregnant. I delivered our most precious gift, Noah, on November 9th, 2011. We have again been gifted with infertility issues again as we are almost at another year of trying (I always wanted babies close together, like little stair steps).

My mom actually saw your blog mentioned in an article online somewhere and sent me the link. We are devout Catholics and are just trying to embrace our own cross in life.

Even though we conceived and have a son, I still feel your pain when I read your blog. It is something that, I believe, any person who has suffered from infertility can identify with. We are an elite club and I know God must love us a whole lot! Something small that always helps me is the little phrase, "If He brings you to it, He'll bring you through it". And also, my favorite Bible verse, Provers 3:5-6. I'm sure you've come across it- but it always renews my strenght.

God Bless you and your husband!

Stephanie Z said...

I found your blog for the first time tonight, through a post on the National Catholic Register, but I'm definitely bookmarking your blog! I'm 34 and have been married for 3 years. We've only been trying for 6 months, so we haven't reached the official IF point yet. We're Catholic and have been using CCL NFP since marriage. Today was my first acupuncture appointment, to improve fertility.

silverbeetle said...

Non-blogger, fellow devout Catholic, sometimes commenter here. Been TTC since August 2008, with three heartbreaking losses. Our third loss was complicated, I developed PPD and a severe endometrial infection. Started CrMS charting while dealing with that, and got immediate relief through NaPro treatment with LDN and progesterone. It literally saved my life! Since then, been diagnosed with PCOS with IR, weak O, LUFS, low prog, PMS, endometriosis, and adrenal issues - I am being treated with LDN, HDN, dhea, dexamethasone, myo-inositol, HcG bolus injects and LP injects, and I avoid dairy / eggs / other foods, per food intolerance testing. Recently made friends with Sew over lard! ;)
I am drawn to your blog for so many reasons. You are able to articulate your struggles, your cross, your feelings... in a way that I (and many others) deeply appreciate. For that, I thank you. I will continue to keep you and all those still waiting in my ongoing prayers. And I will definitely keep reading (and posting from time to time).

Tina said...

Saint Gianna led me to you! I was reading up on her today and came across your post where you met her daughter. (Such a wonderful Blessing!!) I am not carrying the cross that you bear, but I am currently discerning my place within the role of women/fertility/babies/holiness. I look forward to reading more about your journey - I will be praying! God Bless!