The typical infertile has a short-term focus:
Step 1, Step 2, and Step 3 - to get pregnant.
Step X, Step Y, and Step Z - to get matched for adoption.
We become so fixated on those few steps we need to do just right in order to achieve our goal, that we don't have much time to think about all of the rest of the steps that follow AFTER our goal has been met.
But in talking over our similar diets for food intolerances with Sew Hormonal, it suddenly dawned on me that my future is not going to be what I had envisioned for my family. Not at all.
You see, growing up with an Italian mother and grandmother who were both ALWAYS in the kitchen cooking something, I knew that someday I would be cooking those same recipes, with my children yelling and playing in the background. I knew those meals would bring back all of the warm memories of my grandmother and of my childhood, and that her very personal and special way of making "gravy" (which is what any REAL Italian calls tomato sauce made with meat or fish) would live on forever through the generations. In short, I wanted my home to smell the way my childhood home always smelled - like a pot of gravy up on the stove :)
Now I realize that not only will I likely need to stay dairy-free for the rest of my life (it was having such OBVIOUS bad effects on me, that literally the same week I eliminated dairy, I noticed huge improvements in my health), but I probably should stay gluten-free, too. And while not everyone has gluten and dairy intolerances, I do think there is something to be said for the fact that there is SO much carbohydrates and dairy in our American diet (along with processed foods), that it is likely a good idea to keep those foods at a minimum for any children that may come into my life. (Though I may have to pry the cheese out of my husband's dead, lifeless hands like Charlton Heston's rifle.)
And so, what does that mean for the future generations of the Viola.s and Grillo.s?
What it means is that we won't be having:
"Macaroni" (what we called anything that wasn't long pasta)
the list goes on.
And trust me, unless the EXACT same ingredients are used, in the EXACT way, it just is NOT the same. So, gluten-free/dairy-free alternatives will not cut it when it comes to recreating a family staple.
These are the foods I lived on growing up. And quite possibly, these are the foods that, when given in overload, caused intolerances in me. I do not want to do that to my children.
But I feel like I'll be robbing them of the joy of Italian cuisine - the joy of my family's talent.
It is so hard.
Man. Now I am really craving eggplant parm.
There'd better be no food intolerances in heaven :) Grandma, start cooking now, cuz I am going to FEAST like no other when I get up there!!