First, I want to post this awesome excerpt from Father Corapi- a Christmas Message I think everyone can benefit from, but in particular those of us still waiting:
An excerpt from Father Corapi's book, "Letters"
In the course of a life's journey there are often stretches of bad road. It seems that some people have an easier time than others, but it is a rare individual that never encounters a rough stretch. In recent years, perhaps that's why I have found an increasing number of people that liken themselves to old cars. One poor woman said she felt very old. When I reminded her that she was only 39, she responded that she's like a three year old car - not that old, but with over 500,000 miles - most of it over bad roads.
It is a rather well known fact that the Christmas holidays are the most difficult period many people face all year. Many of my pastor friends tell me that more people die during the week before Christmas than any other time.
With the erosion of family unity has come sadness, all at a time that should be joyful. Sometimes we can only be happy by willing it, often not merely by feeling it. Reality demands that at Christmas we will to be happy, after all "A Child has been born to us!"
As I look out my window the snow is falling and the pine trees are clothed in Christmas white. It is very silent, perhaps a prelude to a silent night not far off. At a time when the forces of evil are relentless in their attempts to not only take Christ out of Christmas, but to suppress Christmas altogether, we must be just as relentless in our efforts to give glory to God through his Son, Jesus Christ.
This year approach Christmas as you would approach the Christ Child himself - with reverence and with thanksgiving. Allow nothing to rob your joy at this precious time. Sadness has no place in reality, true reality, for the Word has become flesh and dwelt among us. Humanity and divinity have been joined in Jesus, now come to us as an infant. In the cold winter of human hearts there is often no room at the Inn for the Holy Family. Make room in the warmth of your heart for the infant King the Lord of Lords and King of Kings. Often the greatest joy is experienced by giving something to others: A smile, forgiveness, perhaps the gift of faith itself.
Have a most blessed and merry Christmas, and may God give you the Gift who contains all gifts: the Holy Spirit.
God bless you,
Fr. John Corapi
I am absolutely going to try this approach this Advent season. So far, so good. I think it's been a little easier this year because we haven't put our tree up yet, as we usually do on the First Sunday of Advent. We are waiting until we are in the new house (which is an advent all of its own!) and then hopefully the emphasis will be on the excitement of celebrating the coming of our Lord in our new home, and not on "here were are again decorating another tree without a child."
Today I was struck by how optimistic and hopeful my husband is. Is it just mine who does this, or do others of you notice your hubbies still getting excited about your cycles and believing you may be pregnant?? For my own sanity, I don't even think this way anymore. Not that I'm pessimistic or not hopeful, but I figure if it happens, it happens, and I'll eventually find out when my period's late. But I can't keep living through the "2WW" (two week wait) anymore. Today at church, before Mass began, DH noticed that Wednesday is the Feast of Immaculate Conception, and he looked at me and said, "Oh wow, when do you implant??" I just looked at him with the blankest of stares... I literally had NO idea what he was talking about!! He repeated, "When do you implant, it would be around Wednesday, wouldn't it?" It took me another 5 seconds to catch on, and then the light bulb went off. "OHHHHH, you mean if I were pregnant? Ummm... yeah, I guess sometime this week... not really sure..." He was so excited to think that I was pregnant and could be implanting on the Feast Day of our Lady. It broke my heart to see him so giddy like that. I know that sounds harsh, and one of the things I LOVE about my husband is his optimistic nature... but I just know how much more it hurts when you've put all of your hopes into a cycle, only to see it once again fail.
Unless of course my Prayer Buddy happens to be a miracle-worker.
Speaking of Prayer Buddies, I have really enjoyed praying for mine!! I hope that she is benefiting from my prayers. I LOVE Prayer Buddies!!!
As for the poor soul who has the fruitless job of praying for my sorry barren butt, your prayers for the house closing soon would be appreciated!
I'll end with my favorite line from the above passage, which I have to keep repeating to myself over the next few weeks:
"This year, approach Christmas as you would approach the Christ Child Himself - with reverance and with thanksgiving." I certainly wouldn't approach Baby Jesus with dread, sorrow, and anxiety, as I've approached many Christmases in the past. Gotta remember this...