Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Dear Zachary...

Um... I thought about not posting this, because it's probably the most depressing thing ever.

So we have Netflix instant streaming on our PS3. And I was skimming through the selections under "Documentaries" and saw a film that chronicled the life of a young man (28) who was murdered. It was done by his childhood best friend, and shortly after his death, it was discovered that his ex-girlfriend (the one suspected of murdering him) was pregnant with his child. So, the film became an apostrophe to the son who would never know his father except through these interviews with family and friends.

I had seen parts of it before, and, seeing as I love all things murder, I sat down on the couch to watch.

Bad. Mistake.

I cannot remember ever being more affected and depressed by a documentary like I was with this. I totally did not expect what ended up happening. OMGosh, I can honestly thank the dear Lord that I am infertile rather than having to go through what the parents of this 28 year old man ended up going through. (By the way... he was their only son, and they struggled with infertility.)

It is a really well-done documentary. But, I am still haunted by it. If you decide to watch it, make sure you're prepared for the consequences.

18 comments:

Patiently Waiting said...

I didn't see the documentary but I saw the story on Dateline. Sooooo heartbreaking. And I did NOT see her last act of horror coming at all. I was depressed as well and mad as heck about a lot of the things that happened. Unbelieveable that there are people like that...and his poor parents. Sad.

allyouwhohope said...

All I had to read was your title. I can barely talk about this movie. It affected me like nothing else I've ever seen. First I watched it on Dateline and sobbed all night. Then we got it on Netflix. I wrote a whole post about it a couple months ago and never published it. And I was just trying to get GIMH to see it the other day. As I made her watch the trailer, I could barely look at his parents without crying. Ahhhh!!!

I highly recommend it. One of my top three documentaries of all time and I'm obsessed with documentaries. Everyone should see it but you're right, brace yourself.

prayerfuljourney said...

Okay...you got my curiousity going here...I'll have to check this one out!

JellyBelly said...

I can't handle watching stuff like that! You're so brave!

Grace in my Heart said...

OH my gosh, I saw your title and remembered AYWH telling me about this movie just this past weekend. The trailer made it seem like another movie about a murder, but apparently not. I'm wondering what the twist is, but I guess I'll have to watch!

Jenny said...

I saw the story about this on Dateline, too, and like Patiently Waiting, I did not see the woman's final act coming. Heartwrenching.

callmemama said...

Umm, yeah, I'm going to have to save that one for later in my cycle when I'm already depressed and crying. I'm too happy right now to chance it!

Leila @ Little Catholic Bubble said...

I just read a synopsis of it, via news stories. I think I will never watch it... Can't handle it!!!

It's stories like these that make me so glad that there is a God in the Heavens. What does someone without faith do in the face of such suffering and horror? I love God, I love God, I love God. He makes all things new.

Julie said...
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Julie said...

You had my interest peaked, but then I read the comments and realized that I COULD NEVER WATCH THIS! I would have nightmares for ever. I don't do like murder shows, unless they are completely unrealistic...like CSI Miami is one of my favorites and The Closer is a close second. But, we don't have cable anymore, so I don't get to watch them. I tried Criminal Minds, but it gave me nightmares. My husband watched it every week and if I walked downstairs while he was watching it, I had to ask him to pause it because just the sound of their voices brought back the nightmares. Yep, I am a sissy when it comes to the way media affects me, but I like to say that I am just a sensitive women affected by the sinful nature of mankind.

This_Cross_I_Embrace said...

The one good thing about braving through the movie (if you can!) is the lesson you'll learn from his parents. I am still in awe over everything they did, and continue to do to this day. They so clearly have the love and life of God within them.

the misfit said...

I think I'm safe from this one by being anti-documentary in the first place, but it sounds like it would put me into a tailspin. I do see situations (to do with parenthood, not just people starving in the third world, sort of thing) not infrequently that cause me to think that not having kids could be a blessing by comparison to some crosses.

Ann - Building a Nest said...

I couldn't help it. I just had to go check it out at the library. Will be watching it tonight. I'm bracing myself.

Suzie-Q T-Pie said...

well, I'm totally going to watch it now because I too love all things that deal with murder... can't help it!

Ann - Building a Nest said...

Oh my goodness. I cried the last 20 minutes straight.

Mary said...

I can't remember if I saw the documentary or just the story?...SO SO SO sad. I was nervous the whole time about what that girl would do, I thought it would be bad!!! I may have to turn on Netflix now and re-watch. Julie, I'm the same way, I get nightmares, but honestly this particular story didn't bother me, I think because it's so far-removed from my own life. When things happen that I think could happen to ME at any time, I can't watch shows about them! I am afraid of the dark to begin with!

Mary said...

PS - I looooved his parents, I wish I could write them a letter to thank them for being so inspirational and tell them how wonderful they are! :)

Mary said...

OK I watched it last night - stayed up way too late but I couldn't hit "stop"!!! - WOW. That baby was so beautiful...ugh. I'm glad that you mentioned it again - as sad as it is, it's good to be aware of these things people go through...Pretty sure I had just seen part of it on tv before because I don't remember getting to see videos and pics of the baby...